Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Happiness and lessons from a best friend

For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don’t enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are you’re not going to be very happy. If someone bases his or her happiness or unhappiness on major events like a great new job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris , that person isn’t going to be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness.

Andy Rooney

Hello everyone. I just received the above quote in my email in box and thought I would share it with you. It was a good reminder for me this morning - to enjoy moment, to take time and "smell the flowers", to smile back at my smiling boys; to be grateful for the roof over my head, the food on my table, the clothing on my back, the health of my family and so on.

I have a very best friend - we have been friends since we were 14, we met and only saw eachother once a week at youth group through out our jr. high and high school years. We never went to the same school, never lived in the same neighborhood or city - but kept in contact via phone, snail mail, and three years ago added email to our line of communication. We talk every week and email almost everyday. We have been together and supporting eachother through the "first kiss" to engagements to weddings and marital discord; we have supported eachother through pregnacies, births, the first step and now dealing with teenagers. My best friend has always started a phone conversation with a "can't wait"..."I can't wait until my kids are out of school for the year so I don't have to deal with homework." "I can't wait until my temporary job is over so I can get more of my housework complete." But I have noticed in all the 27 years we have been friends, when that milestone comes she isn't happy, in fact she is already forming new "I can't waits". Everytime we visit with eachother, it is a good reminder to live in the moment, to find enjoyment no matter how small it might seem and be grateful - that is the road to happiness.

Well...I will get off my soapbox for the morning. Sorry to be so deep for a Wednesday. I am grateful that you stopped by today and hope that you have a happy Wednesday., love, laugh and stitch often! Lisa


Gaynor said...

This post is so true for me. Sometimes you have to go through something terrible to appreciate the good and often simple things in life that make you happy. We seem to assume a right to happiness but that isnt how it works. Life is filled with ups and downs and if we are so busy looking forward to the very next up, or dreading the next down, then we miss the up we are on...hehe..does that make sense? Even I need reminding of that sometimes.
A lovely post. Thank you for sharing

Vonna said...

Amen! This is exactly how we try to live our lives, simply "being". It's the smallest things in life that bring the sweetest moments. Personally, I wouldn't want huge amounts of money and big trips abroad, I'm happy in my little part of the world! Thank you for sharing this...I love Andy Rooney!

CindyMae said...

I truly wish that we could all live like we should: Simple and sweet! I agree with Vonna, I am happy with they way things are in my life and I TRY not to take things for granted! There are times that I wish I had a little more and new for sure that the bills would be paid on time or that I had more money for stash! LOL But at the same time when those bills do get paid on time or I do get some extra stash, I am much more pleased with it. I know to thank God for every single thing that I do have! Because I know that without Him, I would have nothing! Nothing that would truly matter to me anyway! Someone can have everything they ever want are still unhappy people looking for more. I don't ever want to be that way